Go on, check, I got a moment. Are you happy? Does it match your ego or do you need an enlargement? I hope you aren’t getting this twisted. See, I’m not referring to a dangling physical organ that’s only good for piss and sex. I’m referring to how closely you match God’s definition of a man, especially when you have a woman in your life. That’s what manhood really is.
Picture a scenario where you set an exam for a primary 4 class you teach. It’s that exam that will indicate which student is smart and which isn’t. At break, your kids decide that if they’re going to base their sense of intelligence on your exam, it’ll mean too much work. But they still want to be intelligent (or seen as that), so they set their own exam with tests like “whose piss can reach farthest? Whose pen has the most ink? Whose exercise book has the most leaves? Whose school bag has the most zips?” In the end, the most intelligent boy in the room is nothing more than the one with the most things, and the unfortunate smart kid starts feeling stupid.
That’s how we are, you and I. We redefine standards, so we can qualify. We redefine what it means to be a Godly guy, so we can screw around and still sing in the choir without hurting our conscience. We redefine what it means to be a good husband so we can disrespect our wives and still feel like God’s gift to women. In the end, the most ‘manly’ man in the room becomes nothing more than the most prolific sex machine.
You see, the most important nature of a real man, is how good a spiritual cover he is over his girlfriend, over his wife (not concurrently though) and his family. Being a boyfriend is more of a spiritual situation than a romantic one. Because unspiritualized romance is ripe for carnal exploits.
You should be the reason your girlfriend ends up in heaven and not beneath it. You should stop groping and start Read the rest of this entry »